I still intend to not use this vest and tie, but to have the men go vest-less and wear ties I either make or buy. Still, it's good to have a backup! Here are some examples from a cool etsy store (Projector: Tie the Knot) that are close to what I'm thinking:
I'm thinking either black with a gold image, gold with a black image, or purple with a gold image. I'm trying to design something that would both be masculine and go with the wedding. I'll let you know when I come up with something good!